Humor in Infidelity
How do you know if a cheated spouse is on his/her way to recovery? The surest sign that someone who suffered the betrayal of a loved one is healing is when he/she is able to see the funny side of cheating. The ability to see humor in something as serious as spousal infidelity is a proof that infidelity is survivable no matter how bad it may have been.
Consider this Infidelity Joke:
Fives Rules For Men
1. It is important to have a woman, who helps at home, who cooks from time to time, cleans up, and has a job.
2. It is important to have a woman who can make you laugh.
3. It is important to have a woman whom you can trust and who doesn’t lie to you.
4. It is important to have a woman who is good in bed and who likes to be with you.
5. It is very, very important that these four women never meet.
What makes this joke laughable is the fact that it borders on the truth. The funny side of cheating is easily seen because the situations presented are likewise easy to connect to in the real world. Isn’t it a fact that a man would like so many qualities in a woman that it would actually take several women to complete them? Given human limitation, it is impossible for any woman or any man for that matter to be good in everything and thus fully satisfy the physical, emotional, and psychological cravings of a partner.
Cheating is not an acceptable answer for an unaddressed need in marriage. As human beings supposedly living in a civilized world, we ought to know that the problem can be solved by communicating what is perceived as lacking instead of getting multiple partners to fill the void. If people were allowed to get as many partners as their required qualities in a partner, everybody might just find themselves married to half the population of their neighborhood. Knowing the insatiable needs of men, no number will ever be enough.
Let us look into another:
To My Dear Wife,
You will surely understand that I have certain needs that you with your 54 years can no longer supply. I am very happy with you and value you as a good wife. Therefore after reading this fax, I hope you will not wrongly interpret the fact that I will be spending the evening with my 18 year old secretary at the Ritz Hotel. Please don’t be perturbed. I shall be back home before midnight.
Your Loving Husband
When the man came home, he found the following letter on the dining room table.
My Dear Husband,
I received your fax, and thank you for your honesty. I would like to take this opportunity to remind you that you are also 54 years old. At the same time, I would like to inform you that while you read this, I will be at the Hotel Fiesta with Michael, my tennis coach, who like your secretary is also 18 years old. As a successful businessman and with your excellent knowledge of Math, you will understand that we are in the same situation, although there is one small difference: 18 goes into 54 more often than 54 goes into 18. Therefore, I will not be back until lunchtime tomorrow.
Your Loving Wife
Again, the funny side of cheating is revealed in the very context of the joke by poking fun at real situations. Cheaters would often declare so many faults of their spouses without stopping to think how they would fare themselves under close scrutiny. It is very easy to think of own needs and wants while conveniently forgetting the inability to meet the needs and wants of the partner. The joke also underlies the fact that cheaters may find themselves hurting if cheating is being done to them instead of by them.
Humor, as they say is the nearest thing to the truth. Thus, when we are looking into the funny side of cheating, we are not making fun of a painful experience but rather looking into realities that actually exist. Some important messages refuse to be heard by those concerned when delivered in a serious manner. An infidelity joke delivers the message just as strongly in the guise of entertainment and fun.