In Which Age Do More Spouses Cheat?

When we see statistics such as 22 percent of married men have strayed at least once during their married life or 14 percent of married women have had affairs at least once during their married lives, we wonder just exactly when did this happen.  Was it during the early part of the relationship or was it during the so-called mid-life crisis?  Could it be possible that seniors are also in adulterous relationships even after being married for decades to their partners?
Younger people are natural suspects for daring acts thus the common notion that they are more likely to cheat than their older counterparts.  One study even suggests that younger women are as likely to cheat as younger men.  In a related study, there appears to be a trend for the first cheating to occur within months of being committed to a partner, with the highest percentage being taken by people who have been in relationships from three to five years.  The same study shows a steady decline in the occurrence of the first cheating as couples count more years together.
An interesting component of this study is the reason given by the respondents.  The peak identified as the three-to-five year zone reveals that a man cheats mainly because of dissatisfaction with sex life while the primary reason given by cheating women was emotional deprivation. Couples in this zone typically belong to the younger age bracket who are just starting to make their own families.
Middle-aged couples are not immune from the threats of infidelity.  Battling with the effects of time that presents unfavorable changes in appearance as well as the usual pressures associated with mid-life, married people can be vulnerable to the lurking temptation that will bring back the excitement and confidence that were once there.  Couples usually fall into the trap of routines and schedules during this stage and commit the mistake of failing to show appreciation for their spouses.  The attention of another man or woman may be too hard to resist during this time.
Couples who have advanced into their years together may have become too comfortable for their own good.  Becoming too relaxed with relationships to the point of taking each other for granted is one possible recipe for infidelity.  Couples at this stage however, have the advantage of their long history together which might just enable them to survive together when their relationship is attacked by infidelity.  Of course, the length of marriage is never an assurance for anything.
Infidelity is said to respect no age and can happen to anyone or done by anyone regardless of age.  It has been known to have destroyed the youngest and the longest relationships.  People approaching birth milestones such as 30, 40, 50 and so on are also said to be vulnerable to cheating because of some perceived difficulty of accepting the reality of getting old.  No evidence has yet proven this proposition.
All things being equal, statistics show that cheating is committed to a higher degree by younger people because of the comparatively shorter time investments in their relationships.  Older people tend to think things many times over because of the value of what could possibly be lost in committing infidelity.  A relationship is an investment that requires time and effort to cultivate.  The more we invest in it, the more value we associate with it.  In every thing of course, is an exception.  In one General Social Survey in the US, infidelity rates are climbing for the age brackets of 60 and older as well as 35 and younger.  This just goes to show that a person at any age will commit infidelity if presented with a reason compelling enough for him/her to act on it.

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